Defining beauty

Beauty is so much more than how I look it’s also how I see myself.

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Some people work extra hard to look perfect. Not only is that lifestyle ridiculously expensive it’s also painful at times and hard to maintain. Who here likes buying creams only for them not to work in the end, or going on diets that aren’t flexible. Don’t you wish we could just be ourselves without being judged? Well we can’t not be judged. We can’t control people’s minds. But we can shut that voice in our head that is constantly criticizing us.
No, I’m not saying that we should stop taking care of our nails and eat unhealthy foods. We should at least look decent. But if you know you’re trying your best then don’t be afraid to say I like my body just the way it is and love yourself!
Loving yourself means eating right, exercising and having a good personal hygiene.
I came across this video yesterday, In the video, an FBI-trained sketch artist draws women first based on their own and then on strangers’ descriptions.
Tell me what you think. (It’s on the dove site)

The Little Prince

I just finished reading Le Petit Prince. It was a really fast read even though it took two days to complete it (I had to go to the salon and study for a test in between). I think the book was a really nice read.
In the book the narrator was stranded in a desert when he met ‘le petit prince’ who would tell him about his adventures and so on…
The book was about imagination, naiveness and sentiment which some “grandes personnes” (big people) lack. We are given quite a few examples of why big people should be less serious and more like children and each of them show us how strange these big people turn out to be at times. Why so serious? Life isn’t about counting money, possessing things or looking to be admired!

“People where you live,” the little prince said, “grow five thousand roses in one garden… yet they don’t find what they’re looking for…

They don’t find it,” I answered.

And yet what they’re looking for could be found in a single rose, or a little water…”

Of course,” I answered.

And the little prince added, “But eyes are blind. You have to look with the heart.”

Isn’t it surprising how in life the little things that are so often neglected are in fact the things that count the most : a small gift, a friend, the beach, a laugh…

The end made me cry. Especially this part : “On risque de pleurer si l’on s’est laissé apprivoiser” You run a risk of crying when you let yourself become attached.
– because you might be disappointed, separated…

Oh! And the part when ‘Le Petit Prince’ had to leave was just full of emotion and I must say that it was very heartbreaking…
There are two point of views of how ‘le petit prince’ is back in his little planet :
-that he is happy
-that he is sad because the sheep ate his flower
So did the sheep eat his flower or not?
The question of the sheep is a really big question, I think it’s about people who have lost someone they loved. Will they be happy in heaven or suffering in hell. What are you supposed to believe when there is no proof and you can’t go to ask.

If you have read the book, please join in the discussion, I would love to hear your opinion in the comments box below! Thank you, thank you, thank you…!!!

Demotivation

Listen to this and tell me what you think.

It’s a track I love by a band named American Authors. They are from New York City and their genre is indie rock.

This week I learned so many things…
People say that you shouldn’t choose a scientific path if you’re not good at mental calculations. Now there are so many calculators that can do almost anything for you but it’s proven that mental calculations is a big plus especially if you’re going to take a big exam. My teacher always says “Don’t let the calculator which is the dumbest machine in the world tell you if you’re right or wrong”. That’s what I was told this week when I was handed my worst grade this year (I had spent too much time fiddling with the machine and couldn’t finish my test). That really put me down.

Why do we let bad grades discourage us?

It doesn’t have to end with a bad grade, you can still fight and push and work harder.
Keep a goal in mind.
Everytime you feel yourself giving up remember that goal and work towards it.
Don’t be discouraged, don’t give up because God has great things in store for you.

Galatians 6:9 ESV – “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”

Are you feeling down? Click here for 12 more bible quotes to pick you up.

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When I die
Give what’s left of me away To children
And old men that wait to die
And if you need to cry
Cry for your brother
Walking the street beside you
And when you need me
Put your arms Around anyone
And give them
What you need to give to me
I want to leave you something
Something better Than words
Or sounds
Look for me In the people I’ve known
Or loved
And if you cannot give me away
At least let me live on your eyes
And not on your mind
You can love me most
By letting
Hands touch hands
By letting 
Bodies touch bodies
And by letting go Of children 
That need to be free
Love doesn’t die
People do
So, when all that’s left of me
Is love
Give me away

-Merrit Malloy

A New Kind of Christianity

A post from Dani Fankhauser
I guess this whole thing started when I wanted to move away for college and picked a school right on the beach in hopes I’d meet surfers, and my mom was wary because even though it was what most people consider a very conservative Christian school, the science department taught evolution. My mom was worried that I would become influenced, and become a liberal Christian. Well, yes, that happened.

But it didn’t stop there. Between a three-week trip to Liberia to work with churches there and a summer working at a church in Hawaii, I realized how little I knew about what church was or is supposed to be, and the same for being a Christian. My senior year my goal was to go to a different church every Sunday, and every kind of church — Lutheran, Episcopal, universalist, etc. It was borderline successful because I sort of got hooked on the Catholic church in Ocean Beach (highly recommended — sometimes they go for fish tacos and beer after the Sunday night service).

I guess, as my beliefs change, I wonder, how far can I go until I’m not actually a Christian anymore? Well, if my 18-year-old self was judging, I’d be far past that line. But I still love God and pray more than I ever used to, and have gotten a lot closer to understanding *why* I believe and how this Christian lifestyle/worldview/etc. fits into the rest of the world.

Case in point: When I was a freshman in high school I had a friend who had never been to church and was an atheist. We talked about God once and I tried to explain that I felt I had to tell her about my beliefs, because, you know, Hell, but once I got to heaven I wouldn’t be able to be sad about her not being there because heaven is a place of eternal happiness. At the time I think we both knew how little sense that makes, but when that’s the definition of the world that you are given, you just go with it.

But that’s where this book comes in: A New Kind of Christianity.

Yeah, the title is terrible, but work with me. The author’s point is that lots of us have these questions that Christianity doesn’t really answer, or gives a terrible answer, things like why a loving God would create or allow something like Hell. I haven’t really believed in it for a couple years now, although I don’t know what the alternative afterlife is (something this book failed to address). Thing is, after college I worked at a coffee shop, got certified to teach yoga, got my master’s at a secular school (for journalism) and overwhelmingly hung out with lots of people who are not Christians. The issue is, why would you be friends with someone if you believe they are going to Hell? That’s painful, how do you deal with that relationship? Cognitive dissonance. You either have to actively work to persuade them, or stop believing in Hell.

But back to the book. I guess the most interesting thing is how he describes these ages, and how people/humans had different needs as time went on — in the beginning, they needed survival/water/food, so that’s what they prayed for and what the Bible describes God as providing. Then they needed national security, more recently, the basic human need (here in the capitalist West) is individual purpose, and that is what churches teach that God is providing. Well, looking forward, I think what we need is global equality and social justice, and no, that isn’t new, but it’s becoming more clear, maybe thanks to the Internet.

So our needs for God are changing (or what we need from him) but the book also makes the point that our understanding of God is on a sort of evolutionary upward spiral. So, it’s getting better. It’s not that the people 50 years ago or 2,000 years ago were wrong about who God is, but they just understood him as they could at the time (think: 1 Colossians 13). And our understanding should to continue to mature.

On a micro level, it’s not that one denomination is wrong but that we are all on different plateaus of maturity in our relationship with God, so while someone may need what they find in a Pentecostal church or a Catholic church (great music vs. tradition) that is good for them to get what they need based on where they are. But looking ahead, the Christianity that’s real to me won’t fit into what I was taught growing up (old wine, new wineskins) and it’s a trend that will continue on, forever.

It’s frustrating and sort of “brave new world” to realize I don’t believe what I used to believe, that my old self would have judged me, that people I know and love could judge me, but there’s also a bit of “you can’t go home again” because I can’t force myself to be naive and safe, once I’ve crossed the line. It’s not that the newer faith is easier, but it is better and more resonant. The author says it best when he points out Gamaliel, traditional Jewish person in early Christianity, who said that if it was just a fad, it would die out, but if it was from God, it would be foolish to fight it. So the same for this new brand of faith — it’s different than what I grew up with, but if it is in line with God then it will last and earn its stay.